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Hello, and welcome to Average To Awesome: a website to document my personal development journey, which will hopefully be of use to you too.
I thought about creating this blog for a very long time. I didn’t do it before, because of various fears related to getting out of my comfort zone. I like my comfort zone. But I’m also curious about what life would be like on the outside. If you’re not held back by fears, but just take a chance and follow your own journey, even if others don’t understand. But now I did. I’m ready to start my trip from Average to Awesome(ness). Are you?
Before we start, I’ll introduce myself a bit. My name is Adine, and I live in the Netherlands, with my (awesome) boyfriend and two cats. I’m in my early thirties and have been self-employed as a writer/translator for over ten years now.
My life has been relatively comfortable. Of course, I also got my share of shit in terms of moving around, parents getting divorced, serious illness/death in the family, not always meeting the right people, or making the right decisions etc., but I’m quite resilient and a firm believer of the age-old adage: what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
In general, I live my life mostly following the books and rules. I do what is expected of me, to make sure everything goes as smoothly as possible. As comfortable as possible, I might say.
I love my comfort zone
According to the dictionary, a comfort zone is ‘a situation where one feels safe or at ease’. However, it is also defined as ‘a settled method of working that requires little effort and yields only barely acceptable results’.
I love my comfort zone. It is safe and makes me feel at ease, and it requires little effort and yields acceptable results.
When you put it like that, it almost sounds good. It’s easy, and I like it when things are easy. But I also long for results that you get when you put in the work.
Up until now, I’ve mostly done things the easy way, and it seems to work. I get by, I have a nice life, and I often hear myself say that ‘I cannot complain’.
But it seems like it is not enough anymore:
- ‘winging it’ all the time leads to experiencing the imposter syndrome
- a comfort zone seems to be limited; if you’re not putting yourself out there, the results you have now, will be the results you’ll get for the rest of your life
- living in your comfort zone results in average, but not in awesome
And that’s what I want: an a-w-e-s-o-m-e life. It’s short, why not get the most out of it?
You can do whatever you want
You only get one life (unless you’re a firm believer of reincarnation, but I wouldn’t bet on getting another one here on this earth, and as the you that you are right now) and even though you’ve probably lived according to rules in the first twenty years or so; when you’re an adult, you are allowed to make your own decisions.
You can do anything you want. No excuses.
Society might make you feel otherwise at some times, but there is no one who can stop you when you want to make that trip to an exotic island and not come back for a year, buy that crazy red convertible or find a cottage somewhere and start living off the land. It’s all up to you.
I don’t really want to make a trip to an exotic island and not come back for a year, buy a crazy red convertible or find a cottage to live off the land, but I would like to get rid of all society’s expectations for me, find out what I want to do it.
So, what am I going to do now?
I want to make a change and use this website as a tool to create that change, so that it can help me, but also others. I’ve done website projects before, but that was mostly about creating short-term quantity, not long-term quality. This one will be different.
If you do the same things, expect to get the same results.
If I want to turn my ‘average’ life into an awesome life, I cannot continue doing the same things. I’ll have to make changes. Put in the effort. Step out of my comfort zone. Find out why I do the things I do and how I can change that. Find out more about the human mind, the mind-body connection, and just find out everything I can do.
And of course, I will share this all with you. And hopefully you will share the things you’ve learned with me.
How to get from Average To Awesome?
A structured approach seems the best way to approach this. I usually wing it, so that requires a shift in mind-set. I thought it would be a good idea to work through some classics, and write about that. I used to read a lot, but I always kept it on a passive level. Reading it, but not writing or doing the exercises.
However, I am convinced that it takes action to create change, so if I continue to only read, and not do, I won’t get the awesome life I want.
Just putting this all out there is something I used to be afraid of, but I’m trying not to be anymore. There’s no shame in wanting an awesome life and there’s no shame in putting in the effort to get there or in making some mistakes along the way. I’m not perfect and I sure as hell haven’t got it all figured out. But I am convinced that my (and your!) mindset plays a central (and essential) role in getting an awesome life and I know that a mindset isn’t fixed but can be changed. It might be scary at times, but I’m sure it will be worth it to – in sixty years or so – look back and be happy with everything you’ve done. To know that you didn’t settle, but that you took the leap and jumped right into your Awesome Life.
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